Valentine’s Day is almost here . . . and so is the release date of Fifty Shades of Grey. There is a buzz about this kinky, sexy movie, anticipation for this rated R film.
I honestly have never read this book series, only heard from my peers that it contained multiple sex scenes and was originally written as fan fiction for Twilight. So I looked it up on Wikipedia and read:
Anastasia “Ana” Steele is a 21-year-old college senior attending Washington State University in Vancouver, Washington with her best friend Katharine “Kate” Kavanagh, who writes for their student newspaper. Due to an illness, Kate persuades Ana to take her place and interview 27-year-old Christian Grey, an incredibly successful and wealthy young entrepreneur in Seattle. Ana is instantly attracted to Christian, but also finds him intimidating. As a result, she stumbles through the interview asking questions about his personal life and relationships and leaves Christian’s office believing that it went badly. Ana tries to console herself thinking the two of them will probably never meet again. However, she is surprised when Christian appears at Clayton’s, the largest independent hardware store in the Portland area, where she works. While he purchases various items including cable ties, masking tape and rope, Ana informs Christian that Kate would like some photographs to go along with her article about him. Christian leaves Ana with his phone number. Later that day, Kate urges Ana to call Christian and arrange a photo shoot with their photographer friend José Rodriguez.
The next day José, Kate, and Ana arrive for the photo shoot at the Heathman where Christian is staying and Christian asks Ana out for coffee. The two talk over coffee and Christian asks Ana if she’s dating anyone, specifically José. When Ana replies that she isn’t dating anyone, Christian begins to ask her about her family. During the conversation, Ana learns that Christian is also single, but is not “a hearts and flowers kind of guy”. This “warning” intrigues Ana, especially after he pulls her out of the path of an oncoming cyclist. However, Ana believes that she is not attractive enough for Christian, much to the chagrin of Kate. After finishing her exams, Ana receives a package from Christian containing first edition copies of Tess of the d’Urbervilles, which stuns her. Later that night, Ana goes out drinking with her friends and ends up drunk dialing Christian, who informs her that he will be coming to pick her up because of her inebriated state. Ana goes outside to get some fresh air, and José attempts to kiss her, but is stopped by Christian’s arrival. Ana leaves with Christian, but not before she discovers that Kate has been flirting with Christian’s brother, Elliot. Later, Ana wakes to find herself in Christian’s hotel room, where he scolds her for not taking proper care of herself. Christian then reveals that he would like to have sex with her. He initially says that Ana will first have to fill out paperwork, but later goes back on this statement after making out with her in the elevator.
Ana goes on a date with Christian where he takes her in his helicopter, Charlie Tango, to his apartment. Once there, Christian insists that she sign a non-disclosure agreement forbidding her to discuss anything that they do together, which Ana agrees to sign. He also mentions other paperwork, but first takes her to his playroom full of BDSM toys and gear. There Christian informs her that the second contract will be one of dominance and submission and that there will be no romantic relationship, only a sexual one. The contract even forbids Ana from touching Christian or making eye contact with him. At this point, Christian realizes that Ana is a virgin and agrees to take her virginity without making her sign the contract. The two then have sex. The following morning, Ana and Christian once again have sex. His mother then arrives moments after their sexual encounter, and is surprised by the meeting, having previously thought Christian was homosexual because he was never seen with a woman. Christian later takes Ana out to eat, and he reveals to her that he lost his virginity at fifteen to one of his mother’s friends, Elena Lincoln, and that his previous dominant/submissive relationships (Christian reveals that in his first dominant/submissive relationship he was the submissive) failed due to incompatibility. They plan to meet up again and Christian takes Ana home, where she discovers several job offers and admits to Kate that she and Christian had sex.
Over the next few days, Ana receives several packages from Christian. These include a laptop to enable her to perform research on the BDSM lifestyle in consideration of the contract as well as for the two of them to communicate, since she has never previously owned a computer, and a more detailed version of the dominant/submissive contract. She and Christian email each other, with Ana teasing him and refusing to honor parts of the contract, such as only eating foods from a specific list. Ana later meets up with Christian to discuss the contract, only to grow overwhelmed by the potential BDSM arrangement and the potential of having a sexual relationship with Christian that is not romantic in nature. Because of these feelings, Ana runs away from Christian and does not see him again until her college graduation, where he is a guest speaker. During this time, Ana agrees to sign the dominant/submissive contract. Ana and Christian once again meet up to further discuss the contract, and they go over Ana’s hard and soft limits. Ana is spanked for the first time by Christian; the experience leaves her both enticed and slightly confused. This confusion is exacerbated by Christian’s lavish gifts, and the fact that he brings her to meet his family. The two continue with the arrangement without Ana having yet signed the contract. After successfully landing a job with Seattle Independent Publishing (SIP), Ana further bristles under the restrictions of the non-disclosure agreement and the complex relationship with Christian. The tension between Ana and Christian eventually comes to a head after Ana asks Christian to punish her in order to show her how extreme a BDSM relationship with him could be. Christian fulfills Ana’s request, beating her with a belt, only for Ana to realize that the two of them are incompatible. Devastated, Ana leaves Christian and returns to the apartment she shares with Kate.
Friends, I encourage you not to see this movie.
I know, it’s the next “big thing,” all who are “popular” are going to see it, a risqué film to enjoy; however, I believe it to be immoral.
Yes, there are shows on TV that show the same thing. It’s everywhere, you can’t avoid it, so no big deal, no damage, right? No, my friend.
Our culture is saturated with sex: TV shows, commercials, internet adds, even billboards, which influence us, vandalize us, branding impressions, pictures, and pressures onto our minds.
Yes, this want is very human and is a blessing, but only in the context of marriage. No, I admit I am not married, nor have I ever been betrothed; however, I personally believe that it would be a mistake for me to stay silent on this matter.
(Jesus was never married, and yet the Pharisees asked him a question about marriage and he replied: “‘Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.’ They said to him, ‘Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?’ He said to them, ‘Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery’” (Matthew 19:1-9 ESV). No, I am not Jesus; however, I am a Christian, which means “mini-Christ,” meaning that I must attempt to mirror my Lord and act and say as he would act and speak.)
I have not had a wife; however, sadly, I have seen the brokenness of many broken marriages. I have seen the pain, the hurt, that pornography, premarital sex, and adultery has caused. And I believe that you have too.
So why should we continue this tradition?
True, sex feels good, the instant gratification of the body, but does not also the feelings of getting high or getting a buzz? There is a reward, otherwise there would be no point of it. Nevertheless, gratification should not be a motivation, especially if it overrides ethics and morals.
The Bible does not condemn sex, for one of Yahweh’s greatest commands was, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it . . .” (Genesis 1:28 ESV), (which He again commands in Genesis 9:7). Song of Solomon is a poem of a sexual relationship between a husband and his wife, though descriptive, it does not create a pornographic image/a specific scene, but poetically describes the beauty of sex between a man and a woman. And in I Thessalonians 4:3-8 it reads, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.”
We are to control our bodies, abstain from sexual immorality to be holy, for God is an “avenger.” Just like Iron Man or Captain America, God is an avenger, an avenger to the sexual immoral. He takes sexuality very seriously, for in sex the two become one, a man and woman become as if they were married. There is a reason that David’s kingdom had many troubles after his adultery with Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11) or that Phinehas speared both an Israelite man and a Midianite woman while they were in the act (Numbers 25:6-9). Now, know that there is forgiveness for sexual immorality, that God still offers love to those who fall into this trap; however, “What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it?” (Romans 6:1-2 ESV).
Sex is good. God created it; however, He designed it for the context of marriage, for sex is the only sin that becomes a blessing. It is a valuable, special human experience, but let us not devalue sex by taking it for granted, by easily giving ourselves away, nor devaluing another human being for pleasure.
Even dogs and pigs have sex, so what separates us from them?
Let us rise up against our over-sexual-saturated society and not give into lust or the false mirage that our culture portrays of sex. Cherish this gift, keep this treasure locked away for marriage.
I pray you celebrate this Valentine’s Day with the one who you cherish, the person who you love. Make it special, and skip out on watching this porno coming to theaters.